1. They need connection before correction. You fail to get your child’s full attention before making a request or setting a limit.
2. Your expectations are out of allignment with yout child’s developmental level. You give to much information so you lose them.
3. You don’t follow through, so they learn to ignore you.
4. Your stuck on repeat. You get more and more frustrated and frequently yell.
5. You are focussed on control versus cooperation.
6. You are emotionally dysregulated, which in turn overwhelms your child and their ability to follow directions.
7. Your child’s body is in a state of overwhelm. Being tired, hungry, feeling sick, over-stimulated, experiencing to many transitions, or lack overall predictability in their world can lead to dysregulation and “not listening”
What does it mean to be dysregulated?
1.Used to describe people who are unable to control their emotions in the same way that others can, or the behaviour of these people
2. Dysregulated mood refers to a pattern of behavior in a child or adolescent who is often irritable and angry and who has frequent intense temper tantrums and outbursts. These behaviors occur several times a week or more and can be interspaced with times when then child is otherwise in a good mood.
Common Symptoms of Dysregulation
- Severe tantrums.
- Low tolerance for frustration.
- Outbursts.
- Aggression.
- Refusal to engage in expected behaviors / activities.
- Frequent crying.
- Frequent negative moods.
- Thoughts of self-harm.
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